Want Less Drama? Live By This Lesson

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Drama (n): a state, situation, or series of events involving interesting or intense conflict of forces. 


For most people, drama is a natural state of life. Your family is going to gossip. Your coworker is going to throw shade. The Game of Thrones season finale will end with the worst cliff hanger ever and force you to wait for eighteen unbearable months to find out what happens next. Sheesh. Then there are the heavier things like the death of a loved one, getting layoff from your job, the break up you didn't see coming. 

In each of these situations there are the facts--what happened, who did and said what in whatever sequence--and then there's the drama we add. We guess people's intentions. We predict the future. We call our best friend, sister, or cousin to get them to take our side. Most people don't get that drama doesn't exist in the circumstances--the actual facts of what happens. It exists in the meaning we add to the circumstances, our interpretations. And although we want to diminish drama in our lives, it sometimes turns out to be really sticky.

So, how do you start to eliminate drama? Here's one lesson to remember the next time something dramatic or stressful occurs for you. Getting this could shift your whole paradigm:

The rain in Florida may be bad for our vacation and good for the citrus crop. A canceled flight may wreck our schedule and bring us face to face with our future spouse in the airport lounge. A forest fire may seem to destroy an ecosystem in the short term, yet renew it with vigor for the long term. When a splendid osprey eats a beautiful fish, it is neither good nor bad. Or, it’s good for the osprey and bad for the fish.

Nature makes no judgement. Humans do. And while our willingness to distinguish good and evil may be one of our most enhancing attributes, it is important to realize that ‘good’ and ‘bad’ are categories we impose on the world–they are not the world itself.
— The Art of Possibility

Next time you are upset about an event, situation, or circumstance ask yourself: What are the facts? Who did or said what in what order? Then ask: Where am I assuming intention, predicting the future, or making judgement calls about what's good and bad?

If you want to be extra enlightened, ask: What does nature say about this? Observe the sky, plants, or water and become present to the fact that all the drama in your world is mostly created by your interpretations, and actually exists in a zone of peace.

See if you can step into that space of observing your circumstances from that perspective. The moment you do, your negative emotions and upset fade and you become present to the peace that already exists around you. From here, you have some power in dealing with unwanted circumstances, and can calmly take the actions that will lead to resolution.

This is just the beginning of living a drama free life, and there are plenty of other shifts you can practice to achieve peace.

If you already have some perspective or strategy for getting to peace, please share in the comments. 

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